I had a lot of theories...
about love, relationships, lust, and the inbetween that got blasted out of the water this weekend. Some I got right. Others - dead wrong.
And I'm glad I was wrong. Better yet, I'm glad I'm learning. Because you don't know until you try it for yourself. And sometimes being wrong is a pleasant surprise.
No details here, but I will say this: The stuff they show you in the magazines and on film? Fake fake fake. Error error error. It doesn't happen that way, people aren't really like that (the ones you want to be with, anyway), and the euphoria doesn't last.
Any Hollywood marriage could tell you that.
And I'm glad I was wrong. Better yet, I'm glad I'm learning. Because you don't know until you try it for yourself. And sometimes being wrong is a pleasant surprise.
No details here, but I will say this: The stuff they show you in the magazines and on film? Fake fake fake. Error error error. It doesn't happen that way, people aren't really like that (the ones you want to be with, anyway), and the euphoria doesn't last.
Any Hollywood marriage could tell you that.
posted by The mini ninja at 10:30 AM
5 Comments:
screw the fairy tale endings. If it does happen, it doesn't last. You are right.
I am not sure how to take this one. I still believe in fairytales and truly believe I am living one (although we certainly don't look like a hollywood couple). Maybe I am a fool. But even if it all ended today, is 16 years of my life and 3 beautiful children really a waste? I think not. I am sorry things turned out differently for you.
Ladies - I think you may have misinterpreted what I said. (Or maybe you didn't, and I'm dense.) This is what I get for being ambiguous. =)
What I meant is that what you see on magazines, the things they tell us represent love - muscle, tan skin, wealthy, social elite - that's not love at all. But we're taught by the media to fall for that stuff.
Does that make sense?
Daph - Oh my, did I offend you? I reread my post and I'm not sure where you thought I implied that your wonderful marriage and 3 kids were a waste. Certainly not!
Additionally, there's really nothing to be sorry for. I'M not sorry. People change, life moves on. I'm happy to be where I am, even if I have many things to figure out first. :)
I completely agree with you, the ones I've had the whirlwind romance with ended as abruptly as they started and ended equally badly as wonderfully they began (if that made sense).
I think I understand where daphne is coming from, but I think you meant something slightly different less-lee. I am very happy in my marriage, sometimes I am not so happy, but I am exactly where I wanted to be. However, marriage isn't the be all end all same as children aren't, and unless it's what you really want, and NOT for the hollywood reasons, you are doomed for failure.
Congrats daphne, I am beginning to feel the same way. Sure, I sometimes still long for the romance, but I am starting to realize I can just as easily get it from a novel. How can a million or more Harlequin Fans be wrong?
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