I Do...n't think so.
Why is everyone getting married? Why? Is it the no-guilt sex? Is it the tax savings? Is it the save in commute gas? What?
21. That's how old I was when everyone around me starting getting engaged. It was like a trend, except trends come and go. Marriage is here to stay (unless you get divorced, which I hear is a bitch.) By the time I graduated, several of my friends had already gotten married. Now just 2 years out of school, almost EVERYONE'S online profile pictures are of them on their wedding day. And many of them are younger than I am.
What's happening here? Why are we in such a hurry to grow up?
I look at all the wedding photos and a small part of me is jealous. They look so happy and peaceful...like in a dream. But then I wake up. I realize that I'm 23, I'm at the peak of my life, and I'm having such a good time! If marriage is for 50+ years, can you not sacrifice just a few of those years to enjoy singlehood?
Don't be offended if you got married early. Some people are just ready early, I guess. Me? Naw. I have lots of new things to try, people to meet, and men to torture before I settle down.
Marriage? I don't think so.
21. That's how old I was when everyone around me starting getting engaged. It was like a trend, except trends come and go. Marriage is here to stay (unless you get divorced, which I hear is a bitch.) By the time I graduated, several of my friends had already gotten married. Now just 2 years out of school, almost EVERYONE'S online profile pictures are of them on their wedding day. And many of them are younger than I am.
What's happening here? Why are we in such a hurry to grow up?
I look at all the wedding photos and a small part of me is jealous. They look so happy and peaceful...like in a dream. But then I wake up. I realize that I'm 23, I'm at the peak of my life, and I'm having such a good time! If marriage is for 50+ years, can you not sacrifice just a few of those years to enjoy singlehood?
Don't be offended if you got married early. Some people are just ready early, I guess. Me? Naw. I have lots of new things to try, people to meet, and men to torture before I settle down.
Marriage? I don't think so.
posted by The mini ninja at 12:04 PM
7 Comments:
I was married at 21, nearly 22...but I had been living with him since I was 18. So, i was ready. I still feel that i was. I realize most people are not. However, if you keep in mind that i grew up extremely fast being done with dating by the time I was 17 and believe me, I've done it all....I was happy to settle down.
Just a question of what you want really. Here is another thought. There are many ppl that I believe should never get married. too many equate marriage with happiness or completeness. It's not true whatsoever. If you want to be married, I say, think of your mother and father and how their lifestyle was/is. Chances are, your married life might not be so very different. Would you ever want that? I think most people would not.
I happen to wish it was still 1950, but that's just me.
I know what you mean. It's sad people get married so young!
You bring up a good point. I think when people get married it ends up costing them much more money then just living apart and hooking up every now and then. Wedding aside, there is the cost of shared living. When people get married they tend to want to buy a bunch of expensive things for their first place.
Then there is the talk of plopping out kids, which ends up costing more money. The extras keep adding up.
holy canoli
I turn my back on you for one day (or two) and here I find, like, a gazillion posts from you that I need to catch up on! Wow!
Yes, sweet pea, there is no reason to rush into marriage. If you are happy, thats all you should care about!
xoxxx
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Getting married young seems pretty insane. In all honesty though, I have always wanted to get married at 23. Now that I am here I know that it will not happen. I suppose it is because a lot of people want to have their children around 30. Although, I hear the divorce rate is much higher for these couples who get married right out of school. May as well wait and figure out who you are alone before you commit to a life with someone else. But then, that is just my opionion.
Rowan - In your case, I totally believe that you were ready. And that's cool, you know? But most people aren't, especially not at this age. Maybe you can be the role model for the young married ones!
I also agree that some people just shouldn't get married at all. And what is with stupid people having children? Like we need more assholes in this world.
Morris - Yes, I hear plopping out babies is very costly. Frankly, I wish kids could just come with the cute, without the diapers, rebellious years, and awful apparel trends.
Em - I'm happy where I am right now. I feel at peace.
Fated - I totally agree with you. There's a reason why divorce rate is so high!
I also have fallen to the whole backgrounds counting trap. In other words "If I want to get have a kid by 30, and I want to be alone with my husband for 2 years, but then I want to date for 3 years, that leaves me at age blah blah..."
But rarely do those idyllic dreams work out, and that's not a bad thing at all. We all grow up at a different pace (and sometimes not at all!)
I have been freaking out as now all of my friends are now married and having their second child--I don't think I will get married until I am well into my 50's!
you gotta be crazy- you're too young to get married :)
i married at 27 and i wouldn't trade all of my single/dating years for anything! they make me the woman, wife, and (one-day) mother that i am proud to be.
take your time. what you want in a mate the more you grow up will change- its easier to discover that before you pick one for life!! :)
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